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i was disowned this weekend... i should probably start from the beginning.  this story involves:

mammy ~ my grandmother
pappy ~ my grandfather
don ~ my uncle
gina ~ don's common law wife (they are divorced now)
missy ~ my sister
mom ~ my mom
brook ~ don's 10 yr old daughter
chelston ~ don's 7 yr old daughter
chad ~ my husband

before i begin, i must tell you that this story is 100% true.

when don and gina were together and living on mammy and pappy's land they did not get along very well.  they had many many fights that ended in blood shed.  one time when i lived with mammy and pappy while i was going to college, i was in bed asleep.  i was awoke with some yelling and crying and i got up to see what was going on.  gina was in the bathroom and blood was pouring down her face.  it turns out that don had bashed gina in the head and she was bleeding profusely.  Brooke and chelston were also there crying and very upset.  i don't remember if it was that night or another but don had thrown a lamp at gina and hit brooke in the back with it.  i had trouble sleeping that night (amoung others) because i was scared that don would come in the house and try to kill gina or even the rest of us there.  to this day i do not understand why the cops where not called.

life with gina and don went on.  there were many many fights and arguments.  once gina ended up with a broke nose and two black eyes.  finally one day gina gathered the courage to leave don and she took the girls with her.  you would think that the terror would end with their break up but you would be wrong.  for two years straight don continued to terrorize gina and the girls.  the cops were called many times because of his harrasment and terrorism.  gina and the girls were scared to death of him because they knew what he was capable of.

in the meantime, missy and her husband had split up and missy started dating someone of a different race.  hispanic to be exact.  don was very upset with this relationship and confronted missy at the home of mammy and pappy.  he ended up assaulting missy and thowing a jar at mammy's head.  usually the cops were never called about don's behavior at mammys and pappys house.  probably because pappy had warned everyone at one time that if they ever called the cops at his house that that person would be disowned from the family.  well, missy did not care at that time.  she wanted to protect herself from dons physical violence. 

she called the police and don was taken to jail.  this upset mammy and pappy very much.  not because don had hurt missy but because missy had called the cops and don was taken to jail.

later mammy would confess to me and mom that she was very upset that missy had done this because it caused a hardship on them.  mammy and pappy would now have to pay dons house payment because of the fines that he would have to pay.

from the day that don went to jail he continued to harrass gina but now missy, my mom and i were involved.  the harrassment spilled over to us.  you must understand that two years had gone by since don and gina divorced but he was still stalking her.  he called and left death threats on ginas and dougs (ginas boyfriend) voice mail.  i know this is true because i heard them myself.  he left messages calling gina, myself, missy and my mother whores and such.  threatening us all with bodily injury.   he also would terriorize his girls by telling them what a whore their mother was and that she was sucking dick for money.  this is what dons girls said anyway.

well, gina finally called the cops enough to where don got a warrent for his arrest issued.  he was picked up and taken to jail.  the fines began to pile up for don and he started to feel drained financially (even though mammy and pappy were paying most of his bills) so he went to court to try to get his fines reduced.  the judge allowed this but only if he wore an ankle bracelet to monitor his whereabouts.  me, my mom, my sister and gina and a few others were happy to hear this.  we could finally feel safe in our own homes.  we wouldn't have to worry anymore that don might come in and try to harm us or damage our property like he had threatened and has done before to other people.  i made sure to give my address to gina right away so she could put it on the list of places that don was not allowed to go.

when mammy and pappy got word of this they were very angry.  pappy called chad (my husband) and said that it was a slap in the face for us to put our names on that list.  chad thought that i should call my grandfather and talk to him about things.  i told chad that we should set up a meeting.  chad called pappy and the meeting was set up for sunday at 2p at a local restaurant.  the attendees would be me, mom, missy, pappy and mammy.

hearing this news had me excited.  i thought for once we can sit down like adults and discuss the problems of the family and how we could resolve them.  mom, missy and myself got together before the meeting and discussed points that we would like to bring up at the meeting.

well, 2p came and we met at the restaurant.  but the meeting would be far different that i expected.  pappy nodded at mammy and she pulled out some paper that had notes written on it.  pappy first told us that at this meeting we were not to discuss don's behavior, gina and don's problems, the time mammy said that she wished my daughters food was poisened or pretty much anything else.  this ruined our plans because to us, don's behavior is part of the bigger problem.  he did however ask us what we have ever done for don.  then pappy proceded to tell us that the land that he has and the gas wells on it....  well let me break away for a minute and tell you about the gas wells.

a company came around and wanted to test pappys mothers land for gas.  it turned out that there was gas there and they started digging a well.  this made pappy and mammy along with don very excited.  they figure that the wells will continue to be dug on their land as well.  and they figure that they will make millions.

okay, back to the story...  pappy let us know that his land and gas wells could make the family very very wealthy but in order to be in the family you had to follow his rules.  he stated that the family is a dictatorship and he was in charge.  he stated that he was to be respected no matter what he says or does.  he said that we were not allowed to discuss anything with anyone about the family and at anytime if we did something he did not like, we would be kicked out of the family.  he then proceded to tell us that he had more rules for us if we agreed to these rules. 

we were very disturbed by this.  we tried to explain that you could not have a relationship with someone if communication didn't go both ways and that normal families do not have a dictatorship.  he disagreed and bascially told us that if we didn't like it then we didn't have to be in the family.

well, i myself will never let someone run my life.  i will not have someone tell me what i can or can not do.  i will not live my life for money or land or anything else.  i told mammy and pappy at that meeting that if i choose to have a relationship with them it is because i love and care about them not because i want their land, money or anything else that they have.  and i told them that i would not accept those conditions.  mammy spoke up and said, "well, they had their chance.  lets go."  and mammy and pappy left the restaurant. on their way out pappy said "goodbye and good luck".  i told my husband about this and he thinks its crazy.  he can not believe how greedy and selfish and down right sorry my grandparents are.  a few other people felt the same way.

so, the gist of the story is, i have been disowned.  please feel free to leave your opinion of this occurance.  i would love to hear what you think.  oh and post anonymously if you wish.